3-2-1 Get Balanced Wednesday
by Dr. Donnie
“Helping you align your daily behaviors with your priorities in life.”
3-2-1: Reflect, Reset, Rebalance – Let’s Reset
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3 Thoughts from me, 2 Quotes from others, and 1 Call-to-Action Question to help you reflect on your work-life balance and well-being habits this week.
3 Ideas from Me
Last week, I talked about taking time to reflect and how it can provide us with a road map of where we’ve been, where we are, and where we want to go. When we have this purposeful direction from reflection, it sets the stage for us to reset and then eventually rebalance.
Resetting is an act of reconciling our mistakes, regrets, sorrows, and guilt. If we don’t take time to reconcile with others, including God and ourselves, we find much difficulty in changing our ways.
I know you have experience saying “I’m sorry” to someone you’ve hurt. We all learned this behavior before we entered elementary school. Many of us know how to confess our sorrow to God. However, based on my research, few know how to say “I’m sorry and I forgive you” to ourselves.
Self-forgiveness is the act of reconciling with ourselves. When we apologize and forgive ourselves, it mirrors pushing a Reset Button. Resetting our frame of mind and letting our past mistakes go is critical to rebalancing our daily behaviors.
My preferred method of self-forgiveness is one I learned from my wife. To make a long story short, I stand in front of a mirror, look deeply into my eyes, and say, “I’m sorry Donnie, for______ and I forgive you.” This process seems simple yet can be impactful. However, more in-depth processes and tools are available.
Taking time to reset and reconcile with others, God, AND ourselves removes the weights of guilt and regret from our minds, bodies, and spirits. It frees us from the chains of sorrow when we accept forgiveness through grace, kindness, and love. This process sets the stage for us to rebalance our daily behaviors to align with our priorities in life.
2 Quotes from Others
“Love yourself, accept yourself, forgive yourself and be good to yourself, because without you, the rest of us are without a source of many wonderful things.
- Leo F. Buscaglia
“You have to learn to forgive yourself. The mistake didn’t change your purpose. Don’t let failures and times you got off course cause you to be against yourself. Be as merciful to yourself as you are to others.”
- Joel Osteen, American Pastor & Author
1 Call-to-Action Question for You
While at home, would you be willing to look into your bathroom mirror and say, “I’m sorry (insert name) for __________, and I forgive you?”
If so, please get up and do it right now!
Reminder Alert! The law of diminishing intent. The longer you wait to engage in an activity, the less likely you are to do it.
Dr. Donnie’s Answer: Last week, I talked about how I started checking my blood pressure. It is in the prehypertension stage. I sulked over the idea that I have not been meeting my physical health needs as well as I should. This led to feelings of guilt and regret. The first step I took after apologizing to God, yes, you guessed it, I went into my bathroom and apologized to myself in the mirror and forgave myself. Now that we have reflected and pressed the reset button, next week we will discuss rebalancing our daily activities to achieve our desired priorities in life.
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Until next week, may God bless you, your family and may the Glory be to God.
– Dr. Donnie Hutchinson
The format and style of this newsletter were inspired and highly influenced by James Clear 3-2-1 Newsletter. The content is strictly Dr. Donnie’s.